Here's the thing... ever since I was a little girl, I have dreamed of having a family. It's the one thing in life I have consistently wanted. It wasn't like so many of life's paths to take like making a choice on which degree to pursue in college, being unsure and going back and forth on a decision. This dream is engrained in me. It's in my heart, and no matter how hard I try to move on, it keeps coming back. It's not that I'm not thankful for the family I already have. I never take my husband or my son for granted and thank God for them every single day. Believe me, I realize just how blessed I truly am. I love my family more than anything. At the same time, there's a drive in me for my son to have what I did- a sibling to navigate life with. I just feel in my heart as though my family is not yet complete. This is what drives me to keep fighting for what I want. Family is everything, and there's nothing more worth fighting for! Sure there are other things in life I want such as a home, financial stability, and a career, but first family.
After everything we've been through with infertility, I could argue that infertility has been my "career" for the past eight years. It is engrossing, and between the medications, preparation, and monitoring, it takes over your life. I've learned a lot in that time and have grown tremendously as a person. Between that and being a stay-at-home mother for Hudson, I'm one busy lady. When Matt and I met and our fertility struggle began, we never imagined what battles lay ahead of us. Good or bad, these are just the cards we've been dealt, and that's okay. We're willing to fight and give it all we have to see our dream become reality. Perhaps we can help others, who are fighting just like us, navigate this "career" in infertility.
Just for starters, a few things that come to mind right away when thinking about navigating this world. Never give up on your biggest dreams. You've heard the term, "Where there's a will, there's a way." If you want it badly enough, go get it! Sure there will be obstacles and brick walls, ups and downs, heartache and failure, but if you give up because it's hard, you're dreams will never become reality. Keep fighting!! The second thing that immediately comes to mind is becoming your own health advocate. This is a large blog entry in itself that I will write sometime soon. In the meantime, don't always take a doctor's word to be the final determination. Doctors are people just like you and me, and today more than ever, they're busy and overworked. They overlook things, don't always put important health related things together, don't always know what's causing infertility, or even give the best advice. That's why it's important to know your family health history and research, research, research. Nobody knows your body like you do. Sometimes it's necessary to ask the doctor's for those extra tests you find while doing your research. If you've read our site you know that I have a blood clotting disorder called Factor V Leiden and a genetic mutation called MTHFR which means my body doesn't absorb and process folic acid correctly. Folic acid is critical in pregnancy. If these blood tests were not specifically requested by myself, after much research and knowing my family history, my pregnancy for Hudson may never have happened.
Expect my blog posts in the future to have a lot of tips on infertility and how to navigate this world. I truly hope they help others in their struggles to have a family. Thank you again, everyone, for the continued support. It means the world to us. Keep sharing our site. Keep contributing to our GoFundMe page (https://www.gofundme.com/a-sibling-for-hudson), and don't ever stop fighting for what you want.